Have you ever accused someone of something, because of your own shame? Like when I start fights with Shannon because I feel guilty?
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Shannon, why didn’t you put Willa to bed?!
Yes. I can be a total jerk like that. Don’t judge me. You have done it plenty of times too!
Putting Willa to bed wasn’t the issue.
The issue was something I was feeling shame for. Like:
- Working too late. (Like tonight)
- Not assisting with household duties
- Skipping on personal commitments (Not going to the gym)
- Sinning
People start fights, and point blame all the time because of their own guilt.
It is a common psychological reaction.
Whenever there is someone accusing you of something, you can be sure of the following:
- The Accuser is guilty of something. He is trying to reduce his shame, by shaming you.
- The person being Shamed is guilty of something. He is trying to reduce his shame by receiving punishment for something. Even if it isn’t his accused crime.
Think that through before you deny it. You will find that it is 100% true.
So. Does that mean we are guilty of something? “YES!”
Does that mean we are all worthy of shame? “NO!” (Well, kind of. Read on . .)
Sometimes we ask the wrong question. We get hung-up on:
- what we deserve, or
- what is fair, or
- who is right
That is a losing game. You can’t win that one and win with the other person.
The real question is,
Are we all worthy of forgiveness?
And, who does the forgiving?
We are not worthy of forgiveness. Don’t throw stones please. It is the truth.
God forgives us by Grace.
Think of Grace as a free gift that is given out of love. God wants us to be with him so much, that he gives us the covering of Grace through his son Jesus Christ.
Understanding that Grace comes from Jesus is critical for this very big reason:
Only God can Judge.
Not your accuser.
Your accuser has no power to bring shame on you.
God choses to give Grace over Judgment
You overcome the power of all accusers through Christ Jesus. That’s your answer.
Grace by Max Lucado
