How to Survive and Lead a Group Activity for Kids

December 30, 2012 — 5 Comments

Kindergarten Cop was Arnold Schwarzenegger toughest role.  Even the mighty Barbarian couldn’t handle the smack down of a a group of small children.

How to Successfully Lead a Children's Group Activity

How to Successfully Lead a Children’s Group Activity

He said he would rather do another Expendable Movie than lead a group of children in an organized activity.  (I kid.  Arnold didn’t say any of those things – OFFICIALLY.  And, Kindergarten Cop is one of my favorites! “It’s not a toomah”  Am I right?  Classic!)

But, why do grown adults cower in fear at the idea of leading a group of kids through an activity?

Because it is hard!

Kids don’t readily mind, pay attention, or care that you are an adult.  They don’t care if you have huge muscles and a badge.

They want to have FUN!  And if you know how to have fun, then let’s PARTAAAAY!

So, today I come to you as a fellow adult.   As a Dad,  as a full grown man (with pretty awesome muscles) that has been thrown into the mix of Children Activities at my church LifeAustin.

I come hoping to bring aid to all the Men and Women that are asked to step into the danger zone, bare the bugers, and

Successfully Lead and Engage Children in a Group Activity

1.  Connect with the Kids

This is important.  Failing at this critical stage can result in absolute mayhem.  So follow these easy bullet points.

  • Do Not Fear.  Kids can smell fear.
  • Smile.  Smiling will make you feel better.
  • Look the children in the eye.  Eye contact holds kids in place like Deer in Headlights.
  • Welcome the group.  Make the children think you are on their side.
  • Ask the kids their names.  (You may need to tell on one.)
  • Ask the children to share something about themselves to the group.  Take the focus off you.   You don’t want a bunch of pre-schoolers ganging up against you.

This will establish you as a non-threat.  Do not move until you have done these steps.

Now the threat is neutralized, we can move into the other steps without fear of the situation getting out of hand.

2.  Express Fun
  • Dress for the part.  Business suits, dress shoes, ties, and fancy makeup are out.  You’re just asking for trouble if you didn’t come dressed to play.  Blend in.
  • Tell the kids you are happy to be with them.
  • Let the children know they are going to have fun.
3.  Explain the Group Activity
  • Be age appropriate.
  • Explain in simple details.  This will help you to become a better communicator with adults too.
  • Incorporate a Challenge.  Children don’t like activities that are not challenging.  Make it fun.  Add an appropriate amount of difficultness to the group activity.  Don’t be mean, and don’t turn the kids into weaklings by making the game pointless
4.  Include Transition Activities

You will need transition activities between game resets.

Let’s say you are playing “Hide the Christmas Star,” and you don’t want the kids to cheat by peaking.  Then do the following:

  • Have one of the Kids Help.  Send one kid to hide the star, while the other children get to play a game with you.  Such as:
  • Make Your Favorite Funny Face
  • Do The Freeze Dance
  • Act Like Your Favorite Toy
5.  Let the Kids End the Game

When the game is all over, make sure you bring the group activity to a successful close.  Here are some ideas that really work.

  • Ask the children what was their favorite part of the group activity.
  • Ask what game they would like to play again.
  • Ask the kids what they learned.
  • Get the kids to say “bye” to you, and to their friends.

These are the tried and true tips from the field.

Give them a try, and let me know if this helps you lead a more successful group activity.

Questions:   1.  Have you ever had a total disaster on your hands?     2.  What is your best tip for leading a children’s activity?

Todd Liles

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I am Todd Liles, and this is my personal blog. It is focused on "Living Well." I follow Christ, I lead my family, and teach at Service Excellence Training. Get more of Todd on Google+.
  • http://www.mattmcwilliams.com/ Matt McWilliams

    My wife and I started volunteering in the kid’s ministry at church four months ago.

    She is in our daughter’s class (18-24 months old). I am in the 3-4 year old class.

    I was a little nervous because I’ve spent less than 10 minutes in my entire life with 3-4 year olds. But within an hour, I was loving it.

    Recently, one of the boys who never talks, said “bye” to me as he was leaving. He normally just stands by himself and says nothing. But I found that he has incredible reflexes and can catch a ball really well, so I did that with him for a while. I then told his parents and both he and they were so excited. Two weeks ago, he said “Merry Christmas” has he was leaving.

    All of those moments made my day.

    • http://www.toddliles.com/ Todd Liles

      Matt – that’s really awesome. Great job on finding the kids strength and letting that be your connection!

      I’m having a blast with the children’s ministry. The kids are really great. I played up their tough side a little in the post for the sake of humor, but the kids are actually awesome.

  • http://danblackonleadership.com/ Dan Black

    I’ve lead or helped a few Sunday school classes in my time and your right on with your points. I have learned the importance of having a plan and filling the entire time up with something. Down time can lead to craziness. Great post.

    • http://www.toddliles.com/ Todd Liles

      The kids are always good kids if there are good examples to follow.

      Thanks for adding to the conversation!

      ——– Original message ——–

  • http://www.facebook.com/myladydonna Donna Jackson

    Son,
    I have been wanting to post on this blog, but my keyboard is acting up. Very good topic. I have been involved in children’s ministry for several years and it is very rewarding. Always include every child in whatever activity is going on. I have seen total devatastion when all kids were not included. Ask them if they have any prayer request. Depending on the age group some may ask prayer for their dog that is sick, but it is important to them. Ask them if anyone would like to open or close in prayer. Be aware some kids come to church hungry, I have learn to give them a snack while taking request. Give them books of the Bible to memorize and scriptures and reward them. You will be surprised at what they retain. Yes, church is not boring when one shows them God’s house is a house of love. I will not allow anyone to gang up in a group, whisper and make fun of the child that might be underpriviledged. Our class is to love,have fun, and learn about serving God and others. I have even treated kid’s heads that had lice without the others knowing. Wonder how many noses that turns up? Introduce salvation (age group) and be careful on this. The teacher must be mature in the faith when it comes to leading a child to the Lord, because when u ask how many want Jesus as their Saviour most all hands are going up. The counselor must be spiritually founded.
    your greatest fan
    love mom Jan 2 2013