What if your biggest shame was exposed by your accuser?

January 28, 2013 — 9 Comments

We all have things in our life, that if exposed, would bring great pain and shame. – Max Lucado

Shame from accusers

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Those words hit me square between the eyes.  Being exposed by an accuser is a fear I had to face in early 2010.

I was being sued by a large company, and it was frightening.  I won’t go into details, out of respect to our agreement.  But, I will share with you what to expect if you ever face accusation.

The worst part about a lawsuit is the shame of being exposed by your accuser.

Exposing is not limited to the details of the case.  You can be innocent, or guilty of the charges.  It doesn’t really matter.  Because, you are guilty of something.  Even if not what the accuser brings to the table.

It is the job of the accusers to win the case for their client.  This means the opposition goes on a quest to win.  Often the best strategy is to wear the other person out.

How your opposition wins:

  1. Prove the case through pure evidence.  This can be a long process.
  2. Win the case by causing doubt about the person’s credibility; and support it with evidence.
  3. Strong hold the other person into quitting.
  4. Shame the other person into quitting.
  5. Do all of the above

A healthy legal strategy is to do all of the above.  If your resolve begins to weaken, you are close to losing.  The opposition is closer to winning.

This will happen every time you are being accused.  Your shame will be brought to the table.

Do you want to know why?  (Stop reading if you don’t want to hear about the truth of good and evil.)

There is a real force of evil called the Devil.  He is also known as the great accuser.  His job is to whisper accusations, and cause shame in the lives of God’s Children.

When you are being attacked, you will know it by the following:

  1. Sins you struggle with call you.
  2. The past you’re running from will resurface.
  3. Feelings of being a fraud will press on you.
  4. Shame will keep you from connecting with people.
  5. Guilt will keep you awake at night.

Shame is a vicious enemy of a free people.  We all need to know how to shake off the burdens of our accusers.

In the next post you will learn how to overcome the shame brought forth by your accuser.  Please join us.

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Question:  Have you suffered shame?  What advice can you give?

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  • http://www.facebook.com/myladydonna Donna Jackson

    Son,
    Boy this blog is a great one that really hit home!!!!!!!!!!! Yes, satan is the accuser of the brethren. Like you said out of respect I my-self will not point fingers at anyone for the shameful things in my life, more so in my younger years. It is good when a young person such as yourself recognizes the characteristics of the accuser(satan), because satan is out to destroy whomever or whatever is in his path! His main goal is to bring shame to the home, so lives will be destroyed. What better place to began with than the home? I say all the time oh if I could go back I would do this or that. Well, there is no returning back, now you have one chance and one chance only@!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!! I have had a lot of regrets, sleepless nights, tears of sadness thinking what if, then I think of the joy of yours and Melissa’s birth and God brings happiness into my heart with the reminder of the day ya’ll were first placed into my arms. Nothing like the fresh smell, dependent of that little one that wraps it’s tiny fingers around yours. That makes me forget my shame for a little while. But, when I started destroying the accuser back is when I re-dedicated my life to God and put it all under the blood of Jesus. Yes, satan comes at me still and this is actually good, because when satan attacks me I know that is a sure sign he doesn’t have me. It keeps me on my toes, pray more, and hit him back with the word of God. God’s word is more powerful than any two edged sword the Bible says. An example of the accuser, I teach the girls and I felt so unworthy yesterday morning=I thought what are you doing in that class teaching, I’m gonna resign! The girls came in and our lesson was a combo of Resolution vs Committment. Joy began to fill my heart as they ask prayer for me and Joe and thanking God for their Sunday School teacher. That blew me out of the water and brought tears to my eyes. I said no satan, God put me in here and I’m here to stay, because God said in Psalms he doesn’t remember my sins as far as the east is from the west, so get thee behind me@!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!! So if satan reminds me of my past I remind him of his future!!!!!!!!! My future is to push forward and be the best to my grands(spiritually as I can) that is the way I want them to remember me as, The Mawmaw that loved them and God!!!!!!!!!!!!!!! My past may resurface, but God put it under the blood. When I see the blood I will pass over you the song goes on to say.
    your greatest fan
    love mom 01-28-2013

    • http://www.toddliles.com/ Todd Liles

      Satan can’t take our salvation, but he can take our joy and rest if we let him. I love you. You have no accuser from me. Men don’t even accuse you. Accusations come from an evil place. I love you mom.

  • http://www.mondayisgood.com/ Tom Dixon

    It is awesome that our sins – past, present, and future are covered. There is a lot of dirt and grime – and a lot I wouldn’t want made public by an accuser. Great stuff!

    • http://www.toddliles.com/ Todd Liles

      Tom, grace is so good!

      ——– Original message ——–

  • Lulu

    Nothing stings so much as being falsely accused. Especially if you are not in the position to defend yourself. Our biggest accuser, Satan, finds our weak soft underbelly of false guilt (false because the price has been paid, not that we didn’t participate in a sin) and strikes over and over. That is why we need to resist him, to tell him to sod off. Thankfully we do not need to stand alone against him. We have such a great Advocate – who will not let anything seperate us from Him and His love – and that includes principalities and powers (Satan and his minions). Praise the Lord. When attacks come I try to reconize them for what they are, denounce their power over me through the blood of Christ and turn the tables – acknowledge that I am weak and He is strong and give thanks for the forgiveness of the sinful reminder. That takes Satan’s power away. Great topic for discussion.

    • http://www.toddliles.com/ Todd Liles

      Thank you as always for jumping to the conversation Lulu. The only power Satan has over the saved is what we give him. He can’t touch our salvation, but he can sure mess with our joy. IF, we let him.

  • http://jonstolpe.com/ Jon Stolpe

    It’s so freeing to come clean. Coming clean is the quickest and best way to alleviate the suffering of shame.

    • http://www.toddliles.com/ Todd Liles

      Confession, Prayer and Fasting. Powerful combo!

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